A sangoma from
Tsakane, Ekurhuleni, South Africa, Doctor Mokoena is married to three women.
The women cook
and eat together, and they all sleep in one big bed in their shack. Also in the
shack are their six children.
First wife
Nene Ngwenya told Daily Sun that at first their neighbours used to think they
were crazy to share one man.
“But because
we remain united and happy, they don’t have a problem with it any more.”
Daily Sun
witnessed how the women take care of each other’s children.
"We are
like sisters and we help each other out. Our unity is even envied by those who
see us for the first time,” said Nene.
Third wife
Makhosi Ntuli said she was happy with how their husband treated them.
On his part,
Doctor said the only way to manage polygamy was for the man to have a backbone.
“Treat your
wives equally and don’t take sides. Always listen to their complaints and be
neutral and fair at all times. I’m not rich but I know how to make my wives
happy. We share the little we have and try to instil the same values in our
children,” he said.
Doctor said
when he wanted to take a third wife three years ago, he sat down with his two
wives to get their permission and see if they were okay with it.
"I
respect them and I listen to them when they are not happy with my
decisions."
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