A lady named
Toyin Fabunmi said she has something to tell Mercy Aigbe, Tonto Dikeh, etc.
Deceit is an
abused Nigerian woman.
She gets
battered one minute and the next minute she is on social media telling the
world what a wonderful husband she has. She shares pictures of the good times
and talks about how he is the best in the world, how she will choose him all
over again if she had to do so again.
Really?
Aunty? Are you okay like this?
I do believe
I will never understand women who praise and hype their abusive husbands. I
mean, how do you look the same husbands in the face knowing he must have seen
the adoration you wrote and he knows as well as you do that its all a lie. Is
it that they hope the men will aspire to be those men they describe in flowery
"Awww" inducing posts? Do they hope to guilt trip the brutes into
good behavior? Is it a case of "nani, nani ,nani,ohun a ni la'n
nani"? Is it?
Are you
supposed to be hyping and praising a man that's sending you to the Emergency
room on a steady basis? Are you okay like this?
I do believe
there is a mental issue at the foundation of this. Something must really be
wrong with one's pysche for you to accept regular beating as an adult and not
just that but still present a facade of perfection to the world. I wonder if
these women know that it actually diminishes their value further. I bet these
men see them as pitiable creatures. I mean why should I respect someone who is
more concerned about public perception than she is about her own welfare?
Aunty,
Husband will constantly beat you so tey den know you for emergency room of the
hospital in your locality. Your Car, clothes and every other thing you own is
bought with your hard earned money but because you belong to #pepperdemgang you
will come online and praise Mr husband for buying these things for you. You
will even tag him and he may even respond calling you "Boo" and
orisirisi. Na life be that? Are you okay like this? Will anybody kill you if
you just share a picture of your latest exotic Car without talking about who
bankrolled it? No you must pepper "them'.
Meanwhile
who are these people that you are always peppering? Your husband's concubines?
His ex wife? Your friends? Your frenemies? Other women? Ndi "I tap into
this"? Onye?
From Tonto
Dikeh to Mercy Aigbe , its been the same story and I keep wondering if they and
women like them have functional brains. Are they even aware that if it ever
happens that they become victims of foul play; these flowery posts can be used
in defense of the Man?
When Charity
Aiyedogbon went missing last year and fingers pointed at her husband, her
friends brought out screenshots of where she shared about how troubled the
marriage was, then others brought out posts of where she was worshipping the
same husband in an interview talking about how he is the best thing ever. Biko
which one should we believe? The same thing happened to Tonto Dikeh, same is
happening to Mercy Aigbe now?
How about
the shame and disrepute that comes with you admitting all your lovey dovey
posts were all a lie...that you have been lying all along. What about the fact
that it deals a blow to your credibility? If you can lie about the state of
your relationship, why can't you lie about being abused?
When will
Nigerian women start having self respect? When? Pepper dem gang when will you
people rest? Stop living your life for other's validation, start living your
life for you. As for the tappers association..... Awww inspiring Weddings on
Bella Naija that didn't last even six months didn't teach you guys enough? When
will you stop tapping into other people's relationship? Stop cursing yourself
by yourself.
- Toyin
Fabunmi Okpaleke
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